Dating and getting dumped
It’s an absolute nightmare, why put yourself through all that?
After six months or so have passed, if you decide you want to, then you can add them back to your buddy list and allow them to see you again on theirs.Box them up and put them in a closet or somewhere equally out of sight.I have known some people to have ceremonial burnings, but that may be a bit drastic, and after you’re calmer and have healed, you may even regret it.Again in time you can re-add them back to your phone but in the early days, weeks or even months, keeping them out of the phone can be a wise move, in order to resist that all-consuming desire for contact!EMAILS: Similarly, if you can bring yourself to DELETE all of the old emails between you, then do it.Hopefully enough time will have past where you are better able to handle being in touch without all the mental hopscotch!
Put away the letters, pictures and any personal belongings of your ex.
For the early days/weeks, I suggest that you just box up all of the stuff until you feel ready to face it.
Eventually you’ll be able to look at the holiday snaps without feeling sick to your stomach, but not right now. In a year’s time, or whatever, if you do still feel like dumping or even torching the stuff, then do it somewhere safe – like the beach!
Below are a few of my suggestions that will hopefully help you decrease your recovery time, and maybe minimize the amount of mistakes made along the way…Here’s hoping, at any rate! (“Emotional Rehab”) – which is basically just my way of saying that it might be “time to go cold turkey” – at least for a little while!
As tempting as it is, if you are still in love with your EX, and he or she doesn’t reciprocate the feelings and intensity, then you’re better off making a clean break. Most people choose to ignore my advice, and remain their ex’s friend – somehow imagining if they do continue to be this wonderful, supportive friend, their EX will miraculously see the err of their ways – and take them back. Now some of you will insist on remaining “friends” with your ex (or have to due to classes, jobs or children together), so if you are attempting this, be sure to set some ground rules.
It is incredibly cathartic and it just may stop you from saying things to your EX you may later regret.